Let’s face it. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. There are times when our own words hurt more than other people’s. Often, we put ourselves down before we even try something new.
Self-efficacy is the belief in one’s own capabilities to succeed. When we do well on our own merit, it feels good. That confidence builds. Recognize your own accomplishments. Designate a imaginary shelf for your awards. Tell yourself you did good.
Self-love is having a regard for one’s own happiness. Participating in an activity we love, such as painting hiking, reading etc., all promote our happiness. By doing what we love we set ourselves up for success in other aspects of our life. When we love ourselves, we also tend to take better care of ourselves.
Self-acceptance refers to the realistic (yet subjective) appraisal of your talents, capabilities, and general worth, and, feelings of satisfaction with yourself despite deficiencies and regardless of past behaviors and choices. This is easier some days than others. Often, comparison gets in the way of truly loving and accepting ourselves.
On those days when self-efficacy, self-love and self-acceptance feel hard, try these 5 tips:
1. Celebrate those victories.
Look at that imaginary award shelf, and remember what you’ve accomplished in the past.
2. Take good care.
Take some deep breaths, drink a glass of water, or take a brief walk around the block.
3. Catch the negative self talk.
Don’t believe everything you think. Parse out your thoughts and decide if they are fact or fiction.
4. Get with the right people.
Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you.
5. Give IG a rest.
Take a break from social media, or change who you follow. Explore whether comparison is at play on those days when self-acceptance is a struggle.
6. Ride the wave.
Remember that these negative thoughts and feels WILL pass. They’re only temporary. And, if you notice they don’t pass, reach out for help from a trained therapist at the NAU Counseling Center.
Remind yourself that you deserve the support that you would give to others. Embrace your quirks. Honor your body, honor your mind, honor yourself.